Erotic Topic: Sex sinful in eyes of beholder

Society has gagged, handcuffed and screwed the concept of sex doggy-style for centuries now; it’s about time humanity realized the difference between a sex sin and a sex right.

While such a conservative culture all but swallows St. George and the rest of Utah, the act, discussion and even idea of sex is continually condemned, and wrongfully so.

This community's guidelines for socially acceptable sex are unjustly strict. Intolerable behavior is stained the inkiest of blacks against the most blinding of whites.

However, people must understand the subject of sex is one of the grayest of the grays. Moral decisions should always be left to the individual. The definition of morally acceptable erotic behavior is by no means universal, but it’s absolutely unjust to denounce others for different perspectives.

Only a few sexual behaviors should ever be deemed unconditionally forbidden. 

I’d flinch at any argument contending rape could possibly be appropriate. Rape, or any other act involving lack of consent or the harm of another, is by far the most obvious sex sin.

Pedophilia is also obviously vile; children cannot give proper consent to something they do not fully understand until puberty. Likewise, bestiality and necrophilia are rightfully detestable as they too involve the impossibility of authentic consent.

Consent therefore dictates the integrity of sexual behavior.

The list of unconditional sex sins may be more extensive depending on personal belief, but as long as all participants are consenting, it is unjust to damn sexuality without considering a gray area.

Currently outlawed in all states but Nevada, prostitution continually faces criticism. Nonetheless, condemning prostitution as an unconditional sin is not completely justifiable.

While some turn to prostitution in desperation, which is more of a tragedy than a sin, others may take pride and enjoyment in their work. People have the right to do as they wish with their bodies, as long as others are not harmed.

Yes, prostitution is deemed illegal almost everywhere. Do I personally believe it’s wrong to break the law? Yes. However, I will not say there is a special place in hell for anyone who chooses to be a prostitute.

Fornication, along with gay and bisexual sex, is probably the most commonly and wrongfully condemned sex act. Again, if participants are consenting then such sexual lifestyles should not be labeled as sinful. Every individual has the right to disagree, but under no circumstances should these people face discrimination because of their sexual nature or decisions.

This ideal applies to many other atypical types of sex: orgies, bondage, dominatrix, furry, scat or other engagements with untraditional fetishes. Anal and oral sex aren't exactly revered either—women may even face slut stereotypes simply from participation.

The facilitation of pornography or sex toys also faces unjust criticism, not to mention masturbation.

It’s always comical to hear castigation of masturbation because people must respect their bodies, even though it’s no secret that masturbation can actually be healthy.

While it is true that loathsome sexual sins do exist, many acts scorned by society are just as harmless as a lonesome twist of the wrist.

Addressing the judgment of sexual sins is just the beginning. As the first ever sex column at Dixie State College, Erotic Topic has many more kinky topics, lifestyles and advice to discuss.

For the chance to contribute to sex discussions or ask for sex advice, readers can send an email to erotictopic@gmail.com or go to Erotic Topic's Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/EroticTopic.

Comments, questions and advice queries are very welcome, but discriminatory and antagonistic sexual judgments are not. All erotic lifestyles will never harmonize, but at the very least humanity can manage a respectful acceptance of differences.

Katie McKellar - Katie McKellar, Features Editor for Dixie Sun News, is a senior communication major from Sandy whose passions lie in writing and riding (news writing and horseback riding, specifically.) She has interned as a full-time reporter at Deseret News and part time at the Utah Farm Bureau. Photography also runs in her blood, thanks to her photojournalist father. In her free time, she's the single mother of a mustang named Dusty and looks way too small in her Dodge Ram 2500.

Comments

  • Sorry, that second comment was not mine. I was hacked.
    by Malinda E Whipple on 18 January 2013 at 9:05 p.m.
  • First off, I agree with the majority of these comments in that this article was very poorly written. Not only were some of your facts inaccurate, but this article jumped all over the place. I honestly think that this article is an act of rebellion. I think if you genuinely cared about this issue, there would be more facts to support your ideas. Although I applaud you for expressing your views against the norm, I think you could have done it in a more tasteful manner.
    by Malinda E Whipple on 18 January 2013 at 9:03 p.m.
  • I applaud any individuals rights to express their viewpoints, but this article is so sloppily written, that is is alarming that it was published in a college newspaper. With so much attention focused DSC right now with the renaming of the school, one would think that the author would be meticulous her writing in order to reflect a positive image of the school. There isn't time to address the entire article, so I will just mention a few: 1. Where would the "community's guidelines for socially acceptable sex" be found? I have lived here for several years, and have yet to see a manual that outlines the community's "guidelines". In fact, the "college community" has probably the most liberal viewpoints about human sexuality in the area. 2. I agree with Kellie Grantham Mzik. Your comment that "children cannot give proper consent to something they do not fully understand until puberty", leaves the door wide open for argument. For someone who purports to be writing "news", the author doesn't spent much time reading it. You cannot go one week without seeing a story in the news where an adolescent has been sexually assaulted or exploited, whether it be by a peer or and adult. And honestly, how many fourteen year-olds can be relied upon to make responsible decisions, ESPECIALLY about sexuality when they don't even understand their own bodies fully? There has to be SOME guidance somewhere, preferably parental. 3.Prostitution. Wow. There are so many holes in this argument, that the authors credibility just completely vanishes. To say that "People have the right to do as they wish with their bodies, as long as others are not harmed," shows how truly uninformed the author is on this topic. Lets leave out the fact that prostitution embraces the objectification and exploitation of women (and men), and talk about the public health aspect of this. Proponents of prostitution claim that it can be "safe", when researchers have shown time and time again, that the only way to be safe is abstinence, with monogamy coming in a close second. When an individual engages in sex with a prostitute, they have in essence, had sex with every individual that the prostitute has had sex with. The propensity of disease transmission is staggering. When a "client" later has sex with their spouse or other unsuspecting individual, they have now exposed their partner to a myriad of diseases. Furthermore, the countries with the highest AIDS rates are the countries where prostitution is legal. These countries (South Africa, India, etc.) are also notorious for human trafficking and sexual exploitation of children. Morals aside, prostitution is a bad idea based on the issues of disease transmission and exploitation alone! Before the author made such a flippant statement about prostitution, she probably should have done some research on her "as long as others are not harmed" comment first. A good place to start would have been looking at the AIDS orphanages in Africa. I wholeheartedly embrace free speech. I feel that it is one of the things that makes this country great. INFORMED free speech makes it even better.
    by Malinda E Whipple on 18 January 2013 at 10:22 a.m.
  • Dooley- Where exactly does she contradict herself? It seems to me to be mostly the explanation that paraphilia that are not consenting for all parties are where the line is drawn. Divan- The "direction and purpose" seems fairly clear to me-- an introduction to the column and a plea for rationality concerning, and acceptance of, consensual sexual behavior. I do hope the comment about there being "no responsibility and everything is OK when it isn't" wasn't in reference to sex? Mzik- You might be surprised. Here are some sources on job satisfaction in consenting, legal sex workers (which I think is a better term): http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kitty-stryker/some-people-enjoy-being-prostitutes_b_1405004.html http://www.gwu.edu/~soc/docs/Weitzer/Prostitution_Facts.pdf http://www.impactlab.net/2007/03/01/legal-prostitutes-report-high-job-satisfaction/
    by Jessica Argyle on 18 January 2013 at 12:50 a.m.
  • Frankly, i like this article. While I will agree that the article lacked in some places, I applaud the author for stating her opinion and I agree with many of her points. Kellie- I grew up in a state where Prostitution (in state controlled brothels) was legal in every county except one. I knew a few prostitutes of both genders growing up and all of them enjoyed what they did and chose to be in that profession and nowhere in the article did she say "that once a child reaches puberty, then sex with an adult is acceptable". If you're going to blast the authors work, I'd suggest actually reading the entire article before you comment on it. -Katie, Great work. Keep it up!
    by Amelia Addams on 17 January 2013 at 11:28 p.m.
  • I have no problem with discussions about sex. I do think this article never should have made it to print because of how sloppy the writing was. I came to the same conclusion that Kellie Mzik did. It's as if there is no responsibility and everything is OK when it isn't. This article is all over the place with no direction or purpose.
    by Sandie Divan on 17 January 2013 at 8:30 p.m.
  • Normally, I fully support articles that support modern ideas of sexuality, however, this article is so poorly written, it contradicts itself. Horrible article. Should not have been published.
    by Jillian Hannah Dooley on 16 January 2013 at 1:35 p.m.
  • While I agree with some of your points, at least in principle, I find it concerning that rape only causes you to "flinch," and that once a child reaches puberty, then sex with an adult is acceptable. Seriously? In our culture, some children reach puberty at the age of 10. Also, if you're going to say that some prostitutes "take pride and enjoyment in their work," I'd sure love to see your sources.
    by Kellie Grantham Mzik on 14 January 2013 at 8:46 p.m.